Hello everyone! I hope you all had a wonderful weekend and your week is off to a pleasant start.
On Friday, I hiked Breakneck Ridge in Cold Spring, NY, which was awesome, if a tad terrifying. I’m a big fan of a good hike and we’ve been planning to tackle Breakneck for a while now. We knew it wasn’t the easiest hike, but I didn’t expect to be legitimately rock climbing for two hours.
Alas, despite fears of losing my balance, we completed the hike in 3.5 hours and rewarded ourselves with dinner and flights at the Peekskill Brewery. I went to sleep super tired and feeling very accomplished that night.
Speaking of accomplishments, that’s something I want to talk about today.
How often have you felt that you weren’t good enough at what you do, anxious about what others think of you, questioned your abilities, talents, likelihood of success, etc.?
I can tell you for a fact that I do this on a weekly basis, and it’s ridiculous.
So even though it’ll probably be a little while before I stop completely, I’ve made strides towards decreasing my self-hate with several steps, one of which has been immensely helpful and which I’ve recommended to my friends multiple times this year.
I write my own biography.
Unfortunately, you can’t find it on the bestseller shelves of Barnes and Noble or self-published on Amazon, but I promise it helps.
One day, feeling particularly self-critical, I realized that I always feel better about myself after I write a cover letter. This isn’t because I get to brag about myself in an attempt to make someone else believe that I am actually as great as I claim to be, but because I’m required to talk about the things I’ve accomplished, both professionally and personally.
So, I decided, I would write myself a cover letter, and never show it to anyone. I would write about myself as if I was someone else writing about me, and I would be completely honest. This isn’t about inflating anything to boost my self-esteem, but rather a way to remind myself that I have done so much more than I remember to give myself credit for.
I can’t tell you how much this has actually helped me. I keep a google doc, written in third person, where I go into detail about the projects I’ve completed, the skills I’ve acquired, the jobs I’ve held, the trips I’ve taken, the goals I have, and the things I enjoy doing in my spare time. When I get hit with a case of “not good enough,”
I give it a quick read-through, and add to it as I accomplish new goals or complete projects.
Sometimes we forget about the things we’ve done to become who we are if we weren’t monetarily compensated for them. The sports we play, languages we know, places we’ve traveled to, BLOGS we’ve started – these are all elements that have contributed significantly to who we are, even if no one paid us to do them.
So next time you’re feeling down, I suggest sitting down with a cup of coffee or a glass of wine, and writing your biography.
Then let me know if it helps ☺